A few words about the power of suggestion and its important role in the counselling process.
In Pairs
Recalling the work of yesterday and looking forward to today.
Session 12
This was part two of session 8. Session began with client saying she had
Lecture
Buddhism begins with realism about dukkha. People quarrel. People steal. They have unconventional sex. Sometimes people kill each other. There is violence. The human is a predatory animal. Incest happens. Partners cheat. Families are sometime
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Talk
“The master within the master”
The client follows prompts that come from within. This is what is called a “felt sense” in the therapy method Focussing. Carl Rogers developed a theory of what is needed to be a good therapist. His colleague Gene
Sandokai
“Here born we clutch at things and then compound delusion later on by following ideals”
“Living an ideal is not enlightenment”
Short Introduction
on the need
- to have fellow-feeling with the client
- to cherish the client’s courageous spi
Warm Up in Pairs & Small Groups
- getting to know each other
- what would I work on today?
- what is my learning edge at the moment?
First Therapy Demonstration
Presenting issue:
Client presented a difficulty with a colleague. The colleague looks
Input
Don’t try to fix it, try to understand, more and more, and show how you are affected. Then it may fix itself. If it fix itself the fix is real. If you fix it is is probably only cosmetic.
There is a parallel process between that is happening bet
We began by completing the theory of consonant and dissonant social relations in networks. We looked in particular at the example of a new member - say, the daughter’s boyfriend - coming into a family and the ensuing tensions. We see how this could l
Morning Seminar
We looked at the story of Dong Shan and his enlightenment encounter with his teacher. We saw how
1. the teacher disrupted the attitude of the disciple and presented himself just as a human being, rather than advertising himself. In
First session
We looked at the issue of moral judgement in counselling and learning how to say things in ways that are not morally loaded, that do not blame the client, nor lead the client into saying things either simply to please or defy the counsel
In this course we are working with the text Jewel Mirror Samadhi Song. This text can be interpreted in many ways. We are going to look at it in the perspective of counselling and psychotherapy. These notes should therefore be taken in conjunction wit
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Reviewing basic attitude of the counsellor. We talked about "grandmother mind" - the attitude of the "archetypal grandmother". Grandmother mind is talked about in Zen as the correct attitude of the spiritual guide. This led to general remarks
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- When client is equally divided between significant objects this constitutes a dilemma. Sometimes the client has to choose. The client may come to the therapist saying "Choose for me?" or "How do I choose?" but
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A visualisation basd on creating a "Pure Land" space and inviting into it significant people from one's life, creating for them a suitable setting and giving gifts.
Seminar
We reflected further on the question of how to develop empathy. It
Course Title
"White Snow upon a silver plate" - things that seem similar are actually completely different. Counselling is not just ordinary conversation. Something more important is happening. As we become more experience we see the difference.
Warm
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